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August 18, 2005 at 12:10 am 2 comments

In East Asian societies in general – When falling in love, one also has to make sure the partner is of a similar (or higher/acceptable) social standing. There will usually be heavy familial pressure if otherwise. In the case of Singapore, the class divide is already as complicated as it is already.

Basically, I think it boils down to two things: money and face.
Guitar of TJC forums brings this dimension to the scholarship debate – that being a (overseas) scholar gives one a leg up in the courtship game.

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  • 1. kai lin  |  August 18, 2005 at 12:20 pm

    I actually have a friend (who is relatively rich, pretty and smart) who dumped her ex bf because her parents felt he was “not good enough for her” because he did not make it into a local university and I think she felt the same way. In the meantime, she was being wooed by another guy in her uni course, and she confided in me that he was rather poor, and thus would not get a kick start in life like the filthy rich and asked if she should still go out with him. They are now together though I can’t help feeling that she would be very willing to drop him if a better guy comes along.

    Life is harsh for the unwealthy, the uneducated and the unpretty.

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  • 2. L'oiseau rebelle  |  August 19, 2005 at 10:03 pm

    Guess I should be glad my parents are more open minded about such things…

    But gosh, I’ve heard so many stories about such elitist behavior… one parent I know of even spotted a girl she would like her son to eventually date (well, must finish studies first, right?) based on the fact that she’s a top student from top schools. Notwithstanding that her son wasn’t exactly interested…

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